Yet, she feels the need to say it. Again and again.
And you wonder—why?
Why does someone so obviously valuable feel compelled to justify her worth? Why must she recount how others admire, respect, or depend on her?
Maybe she doesn’t even realise she’s doing it. Perhaps it’s just a habit, an unconscious loop of self-affirmation. Or maybe—deep down—she’s afraid that if she stops saying it, people might stop seeing it.
The Trap of Seeking Validation
We all crave recognition. It’s human nature. But here’s the paradox:
The more we try to prove our worth, the less convincing it becomes.
Imagine someone who quietly excels and gets things done without paying attention. They don’t have to tell you how good they are. And because they don’t seek validation, their impact is even more substantial. Now, compare that to someone who constantly reminds you of their greatness. No matter how talented they are, it starts to feel... excessive after a point. It's almost like they’re trying to convince themselves as much as they are convincing you.
Why Do We Do This
It’s easy to fall into this pattern. Maybe:
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You’re uncertain that people genuinely appreciate you.
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You’re concerned about being overlooked.
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You fear that your contributions will go unnoticed unless you highlight them.
Here’s the irony: Constantly seeking validation often has the opposite effect—it makes others less likely to give it to you.
The Quiet Power of Knowing Your Worth
There’s something magnetic about people who don’t need to announce their greatness. They just are.
They walk into a room with quiet confidence. They do their work with excellence without broadcasting it. They trust their value is recognised—not because they say so, but because it simply is.
If you know your worth, you don’t have to prove it. If you don’t, no amount of proving will ever feel enough.
A Simple Shift in Perspective
If you find yourself constantly explaining your value, pause and ask:
Who am I trying to convince—others or myself?
What if I let my actions speak instead?
And if you know someone who does this, it can be tricky to tell them. Not everyone takes feedback well, especially about something so personal.
But sometimes, the message finds its way—subtly, indirectly, or even through something as simple as this post. Because those who need to hear it will recognise themselves in these words.
You don’t have to prove anything. Just be. That’s enough.
About Me
I am a thinker at all times. I see, I think. I hear, I think. I read, I think. Every weekend I write. I would love to know what you think.