By February? It’s back to Netflix marathons and binge eating.
This year, though, I shocked myself. I promised I’d step out of my comfort zone, and for the first time in forever, I actually did it.
Twice.
The Rajen of yesteryears would’ve laughed—then quietly retreated to his cosy corner, far from the spotlight. But something changed. I completed 50 and entered into my 30th year as a working professional.
So, I asked myself the big question: If not now, when?
Publishing a Book: Surprise #1
Step one in this grand self-challenge was writing and publishing my first book. That, in itself, was unexpected.
But I did it. And then came the absolute horror: self-promotion.
“That’s not me,” I declared to anyone who’d listen—starting with my publishing consultant.
“Listen,” he shot back, “you self-published. If you don’t promote it, who will?”
He was right, of course. I hadn’t written the book just to let it gather dust. I’d written it for readers—people who might find clarity, comfort, or a little courage in its stories.
So, I swallowed my discomfort and started telling people about it—slowly, gently. I haven’t done billboards or skywriting (yet), but I did text friends, post updates, and share links. These seem like baby steps, but they’re giant strides for me.
Facing the Camera: Surprise #1
Now, this is where things get wild.
I’ve spent 30 years behind the camera, but cameras were meant to face other people. So, when Kuheena asked me if I’d do an on-camera interview, I surprised her and me by saying yes.
I almost pinched myself to check if I’d lost my mind. But there I was, recording a full-length interview, stumbling through nerves and awkward pauses—and somehow surviving.
Not content with my single brush with bravery, I volunteered to be on stage for a live Q&A. Yes, me, the guy who avoided spotlights like the plague. I texted Avantika and asked if she’d grill me with questions in front of an audience.
By now, I was unrecognisable to myself. Who was this guy volunteering for public speaking? And, more importantly, I (can’t believe I am saying it) began enjoying it.
What Changed?
Here’s the thing. The old me was stubborn. I’d built my comfort zone brick by brick, and no one could drag me out.
But this year, I made one slight mental shift: I decided I didn’t have to feel uncomfortable. If I did something new, I’d replace hesitation with interest. I’d treat it like an adventure instead of a punishment.
And you know what? It worked.
If you’re reading this and shaking your head, thinking, “Good for you, Rajen, but I could never…”—I get it. I would’ve said the same thing a year ago.
But here’s the truth: If I can change, so can you.
Whatever it is you’ve been avoiding—whether it’s writing that book, speaking up in a hall full of people, or learning to dance in public—don’t wait. Don’t let discomfort win.
Your Turn to Flirt With Discomfort
So, what’s it going to be? What’s the thing you keep telling yourself “isn’t me”? Public speaking? Starting a business? Taking that solo trip, you’ve been dreaming of?
Pick your challenge, set a date, and take the leap.
It doesn’t have to be perfect. My first interview was far from polished, but doing something I once swore I would never do felt good.
Know this: Life isn’t going to wait for you. The clock is ticking, and every year you spend hiding from discomfort is a year you could’ve spent surprising yourself—even enjoying it.
This year, I became the guy who wrote a book, faced a camera, and stepped on stage voluntarily—all things I never thought I’d do.
2024 was my year to say, “Why not?” It’s your turn to make 2025 yours.
Remember: if not now, when?
About Me
I am a thinker at all times. I see, I think. I hear, I think. I read, I think. Every weekend I write. I would love to know what you think.